I recently gave a talk about Grief Recovery to a local group.Â My talks always involve examples of the types of personal loss we might encounter during a lifetime which will cause feelings of grief.Â Divorce and relationship breakdown are two of these.Â Several people expressed surprise at this, they felt that a divorce was more about putting an end to pain but grief can be part of the hidden fall out following divorce.Â
Now the 5th November is over, the shops and TV are full of Christmas.Â It will be hard to escape the images of happy families together sharing the joy of the season.Â If you have lost someone special due to bereavement or relationship breakdown you may not be able to imagine how you are going to get through the Christmas season this year.Â
Recently I gave a talk about grief to a local group.Â At the end of the talk I was approached by a lady who told me that she had never associated the painful emotions she felt after her divorce as being grief.Â Listening to the information I shared during my presentation, she now recognised that what she had been through was grief for her relationship that had died.Â This isnâ€™t the first time that I have heard a story like this.Â Quite often people only associate grief with someone having died.Â The reality is that there are over 40 life events that cause us to feel
40 to 50% of marriages now end in divorce
Every romantic relationship brings with it hopes, dreams and expectations.Â If the relationship ends or changes; these hopes dreams and expectations can be crushed.
This is why itâ€™s so important to complete what was emotionally unfinished in your last relationship so you donâ€™t take it into your next one.
If you think your past relationship getting in the way of your current one, contact me.Â The Grief Recovery MethodÂ® helps you to move on from unsuccessful past relationships making room for the love of your life
I'm delighted that this month's blog comes from a colleague of mine, Judith Morris from Organised Chaos. Judith tackles the sensitive subject of clearing out personal possessions following bereavement. You can find more information about Judith's services on www.judithmorris.co.uk or you can contact her directly on 01327 705294 or mobile 07850 580802
Being diagnosed with a chronic long term illness is a loss in itself, the loss of health.Â This in turn can lead to many other small losses which may feel hard to take.Â Accepting the limits which may have been enforced on you by a chronic condition is key to rebuilding your life successfully.Â Without this you could spend so much time and energy wishing it were different or fighting your condition.Â I write this with a wry smile on my face.Â Why? Because I have personal experience of this and I know how difficult that can be.