D is for Divorce

I recently gave a talk about Grief Recovery to a local group.  My talks always involve examples of the types of personal loss we might encounter during a lifetime which will cause feelings of grief.  Divorce and relationship breakdown are two of these.  Several people expressed surprise at this, they felt that a divorce was more about putting an end to pain but grief can be part of the hidden fall out following divorce. 

Is Grief Only Related to Death?

Recently I gave a talk about grief to a local group.  At the end of the talk I was approached by a lady who told me that she had never associated the painful emotions she felt after her divorce as being grief.  Listening to the information I shared during my presentation, she now recognised that what she had been through was grief for her relationship that had died.  This isn’t the first time that I have heard a story like this.  Quite often people only associate grief with someone having died.  The reality is that there are over 40 life events that cause us to feel

Rebuilding a Life with Chronic Illness

Being diagnosed with a chronic long term illness is a loss in itself, the loss of health.  This in turn can lead to many other small losses which may feel hard to take.  Accepting the limits which may have been enforced on you by a chronic condition is key to rebuilding your life successfully.  Without this you could spend so much time and energy wishing it were different or fighting your condition.  I write this with a wry smile on my face.  Why? Because I have personal experience of this and I know how difficult that can be.